Comments on: Dating in India: The Do’s and Don’ts as a Foreign Woman

By: Temp t

Temp t — Fri, 30 Oct 2020 19:26:44 +0000

Well this article is not bad. It doesn’t spread lies about Indian men unlike other western articles and even some articles written by Indian women. Many Indian women also spread lies about Indian men in the west so that they won’t get western women. Therefore they can get back to these Indian men (since they would single because of that stereotyping) when they think about marriage and settling down after playing around.

By: bharat nitish

bharat nitish — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 04:19:23 +0000

India has its unique set of problems that are difficult to comprehend. I truly love India and honestly hate the way Indian men are perceived globally by all nationalities. I don’t think we deserve this label. Maybe you can write a blog post on the positives of dating Indian men and their drawbacks as a global citizen. maybe give a few suggestions on how Indian men can be globally competitive.

By: Nik

Nik — Tue, 19 May 2020 10:59:52 +0000

It takes more than a luck to get into a relationship with someone who is not from your religion or country. By looks of the article one can say that it is not easy to summize it with words like good or bad experience. Yes stereotypes exists everywhere and because of it you can either have a bad or worst experience of your lifetime. People tend to react on someone else’s experience without knowing all the facts or scenario which in turn creates more rumors. I believe everybody knows what happens when you start believing rumors. I am not saying that what you mentioned are all rumors but it is harsh to categories everyone. I hope the readers will understand that one has to come out from their comfort zone or beat all the odds to get someone which is worthy of your “unconditional” love. I read somewhere “it’s easy to find a girlfriend or boyfriend but so hard to find the love of your life”. I like the simplicity your article and the message is clear cut with touch of reality. I hope more and more people come out for a healthy conversation rather than being always judgmental.

By: Shanu Vatsya

Shanu Vatsya — Sun, 12 Jan 2020 19:06:09 +0000

I think beth has made her point quite diligently and it’s imperative upon us to know both positives and negatives. Dating is not as prevalent in India as it is in west so many men (I m not talking about boys) have not had the privilege to gain dating experience as much as western men do. I mean we do not heir dating coaches like people do in west as ultimately there is an option of arrange marriages. Family system is still quite functional compared to west so parents take care of many of such stuff.
Also foreign women usually encounter uneducated men(drivers, small shop owners etc) more at these places like rishikesh and haridwar who possess limited social skills.
Finding some educated fellow is difficult as they are busy in regular life struggles as life in India is tough comparatively if you wish to earn good life. Also Indian men are usually interested in marrying an Indian girl as most are aware of the western hookup dating culture and people changing partners like clothes. I m not saying that everyone from west is like that but I think you can understand what I mean. Indian men in general are one woman man committed kind of people. To give you guys an idea America has 45 % divorce rate whereas India has 1% divorce rate.
So if you are looking for a serious long term relationship Indian men are the most intelligent, smart and committed partners you can ever find but if you are looking for hook up and stuff why look for it in India? and how does it matter if the guy has social skills or not afterall it’s just hook up.
These are my two cents.

By: Sushrut Deshmukh

Sushrut Deshmukh — Thu, 17 Oct 2019 10:59:46 +0000

I think this article is going to be helpful not only to foreigners but also to indian men like me who stumbled upon it because it helped clear some misunderstandings, like there were moments when I really couldn’t figure out if a girl was flirting or was trying to be friendly but now i know to assume the latter after reading this. Thanks!

By: Kaani

Kaani — Mon, 12 Aug 2019 08:07:35 +0000

It is sad that you went throught this experience. It is hard for foreigners to differentiate between a well informed person and someone who would not even know the basics of dating. The open minded Indians stay in circle with the other open minded Indians. Once a traveller finds that circle, the traveller can let her guard down.

It is sad that that those who visit India need to put this initial filter, but that is the truth. Indians are good with recognising this ‘circle’ as it is related to city, education and other personal factors relating to that person.

By: Kishan MishRA

Kishan MishRA — Tue, 14 May 2019 06:53:40 +0000

In reply to RSJ. Dude this happens in India as well. It is just that people dont speak up.

By: Kishan MishRA

Kishan MishRA — Tue, 14 May 2019 06:52:03 +0000

Fair article. Even me being an Indian male and dating western women here in Bangkok, I have heard similar stories from them. I think a major problem is, Indians in India are not used to Non Indians(be it western,middle eastern or African) and a huge assumption is anyone out of India would be open minded (as Indians are terribly conservative). Now with the above situations in place it is expected people to just freak out as they are not aware of the expectations(so sometimes they over do it). For ex, my first date with a white person in Bangkok..it took us 6 dates to even kiss each other..the reason being, I was under the assumption that the world thinks “All Indians are rapists”, so it was just a self respect thing for me, where as she had already started freaking out and was assuming that I am gay(considering Bangkok has a huge population of LGBTQ population). We broke the ice eventually and we stayed together for a couple of years.

I would suggest to write a blog post about “What non Indian women expect out of Indian men” or something :D

By: RSJ

RSJ — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 05:05:04 +0000

In reply to Manu. is that why whites have the highest divorce rates infidellity non monogamy and white men beat their women. Indians have successful marriages and low divorce rates.whites have the biggest ego and get caught for numerous lies whites need to stay out of our country we don't want you here and we will stab you. no races like whites.whites are pedophiles and get caught for voyeurism and sexual exploitation towards under age minors.whites decriminalize prostitution because white women lack brains they spread their legs to make rent money.

By: RSJ

RSJ — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 05:01:28 +0000

In reply to Rachel Jones. you white AlieN martiaNs are fkg ugly our indian women are the most beautiful women stay out of our countrys business we don't like white skinned savages.whites don't belong on our planet quit using our ideals of religion and invention of language that's not for white extraterrestrials go back to your planet and get out of ours Europe is a fake name for a continent which isn't separated by waters .we get technical your white race was never here and indus meaning indian indus valley civilization is the first civilization on the planet get out of our planet. GET OUT OF OUR NON WHITE CONTINENT! one british murdered in Goa IndiA one german murdered in ultar pradesh that means whites are not welcome! stay in your ShitholE' we are ANTI WHITE we want you deaD'

By: RSJ

RSJ — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 04:56:40 +0000

In reply to Rachel Jones. who Indians get married to is none of your business you jealous white piece of fkg $%#! stick with your inferior race and stay out of our races business we don't like white uglys like you you are filthy people and a burden to healthcare you stage 4 cancerrat.whites will be genocideD in ww3. we cant wait.don't come to our country you wont come back alive.us ultraconservative rightwing hindus will kill you . your self entitlement bs doesn't work around here!.we also noticed you have allot of fake comments on this forum endorsing race mixing us indians hate white trash we see with our own eyes how backwards and filthy your people are you also have a terrible history keep your drama out of our country,. our future will be to nuke you and all whites on the planet..

By: RSJ

RSJ — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 04:45:28 +0000

In reply to Eva Quinby. you whites are dirty people did you know that sanitation ancient hydraulic engineering drainage plumbing and toilets were invented by Indians and not whites well now you do! and shampoo was invented by Indians (indian Vedic champoo) you whites are full of inferior genes and shouldstick to your own race you are a dying race and are recessive genetics . your people have the highest divorce rates and lackculture stay out of our country whites have MCR-1 genes and varicella zoster virus which mutates into shingles you are discusting parasites. keep your epidermodysplasia verricoformis ,xeroderma pigmentosum and HPV human papilloma virus to yourself. whites have a bad history with all races and us south Asians don't like whiteskinned barbaric cave savages. you scourge lie about achievements and inventions your race never made you envy Indians you are jealous scum on our non white planet get out of our non white planet.quit using surgery medicine language grammar literature university numbers number zero fiber optics wireless communications binary code and I can go on . we don't believe in miscegenation we have arranged marriages and whites and jews don't belong on our earth you people are inferior leeches who use our ideals of religion which comes from our yajur ved you use music and dance which both come from our sam ved we don't like whiteskinned trash get out of America that's not a whiteland.white women are dirty and suffer from melanoma epidermlysis bulosa. white women get constant mammogram testing and need a double mastectomy treatment whites are so unhealthy and gross.whites robbed our country and we going to kill you in ww3.

By: Manu

Manu — Mon, 25 Mar 2019 03:31:57 +0000

I am agreed with the writer…not all but most of Indian men are still have this primitive instinct of taking women for granted be it a Indian girl or any foreigner..huge ego problem with Indian men..

By: Prajeet

Prajeet — Tue, 19 Mar 2019 01:22:26 +0000

Beth looks twice the age of her boyfriend. Gross.

The entitlement some women display. If you’re “shocked” by a guy wanting to have sex with you, pray to Shiva that you have it so good.

By: Rachel Jones

Rachel Jones — Sun, 13 Jan 2019 17:00:32 +0000

In reply to Reena.

Agree that things are changing in India, but actually, the arranged marriage is one thing that hasn’t changed. Recent surveys show that 84% of people 13-35 who are married in India, it was arranged. So, not 90% anymore, but not far off. Source: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/05/02/india-has-changed-a-lot-in-70-years-but-arranged-marriage-remains-the-norm/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.e7a4c08c11c7

By: Reena

Reena — Fri, 11 Jan 2019 22:19:44 +0000

I don’t think it was because of your race that Indian guys seemed interested in having sex. It happens with Indian girls too most of the times. It just in White people and specially White women’s head that men in India think White men or women as prize or anything because of their race!!! At first it may seem like that because white people are portrayed as rich and fashionable in movies and India is very diverse in culture but not in terms of race but believe me you’ll get what I am saying if you have stayed a little longer and interacted with the same people a couple of more times! I blame Western Media for portraying White Women as easy!

Also I know White women tend to racially profile Indian men or any non white men! They just want to date an Indian guy (if they ever want to date one) to experience culture! From the beginning they have made their mind to not go into serious relationship with the Indian Guy and use the companionship as just sort of exploring culture and not the person! From so many experiences I have heard they say “oh I dated an Indian guy once! At least I got to try different Indian food places” and never a comment about how the person was!

Also your statement about 90% marriages being arranged marriages in India is not true specially among the young generation! Also the way “arranged” marriages are done has changed drastically in India! The girl and the guy date or get to know each other for the first few months before committing to each others lives and families and getting married.

By: Sonjoy Bose

Sonjoy Bose — Wed, 05 Dec 2018 17:34:18 +0000

In reply to Sonjoy Bose. Hello ! A tbousand apoplogies for the vile garbage in the above comment that was made in my name by an arsehole who was using my computer ! Delete this piece of trash immediately-you are so right about Indians . I usually don't comment on these blogs, but what I commented below is the actual me commenting. I am very sorry for the hurt caused by this extreme racist bullshit this motherfucker spewed out from MY computer.Delete it immediately! Once again, extremely sorry for the hurt this caused. My comment below will tell you how I really feel about your topic.

By: Sonjoy Bose

Sonjoy Bose — Wed, 05 Dec 2018 17:09:41 +0000

Hi !

I’m live now in Kolkata , India but grew up in Berlin. I was shocked when I came back to India to see how western women are treated. And anyway , Indian women aren’t doing any better- after all, eight-year old girls are getting sexually abused here ! I have many white friends whom I ‘ve met in my many travels , and I’d like to share a few tips I give white girls on interacting with my countrymen. Maybe you’ll find them useful:

1) ask about their parents,their siblings, their hobbies etc. Never about girlfriends or whether they are married or not. This immediately signals disinterest in matters of romance or sex.

2) Talk about your boyfriend ; if you don’t have one-make him up. See the reaction. If he becomes uncomfortable, you know what he really wants.

3) If he wants to go out, ask if you can bring your friends along ( both male and female) . If he doesn’t like the idea- well, I needn’t say more.

These three initial tests usually give a good idea of who you are dealing with .
Guys who react very positively to this approach make for good friends you can really hang out with and count on.

Of course, there’s always the possibility of meeting a great guy. In that case, good luck. But, sad to say , so many of the white women I have met have had horrible tales to tell. Anyway, great post !

By: Sonjoy Bose

Sonjoy Bose — Wed, 05 Dec 2018 16:18:18 +0000

Wow, some very interesting anti – India propaganda there, as usual ! I am Indian , live now in Kolkata , but was born and brought up in Berlin, Germany. I have seen it all – so don’t any white woman tell me fairytales about your virtuousness and morality. For you, not losing your virginity before you’re 18 is oh so not cool – and having at least 10 ex-boyfriends is a sign you are “growing” as a woman. Ha! Berlin is an international city, and I have seen German , British , American women all do their thing, living it up. I am also aware of how often white women become victims of date-rape and gang-rape , courtesy their oh-so-civilised white boyfriends. And then ,suddenly , when you all come to India, you all become virtuous, decent , self-respecting ladies ! Who do you think you are fooling ? NO ONE. And I have also been to the United Arab Emirates, where I have seen white women tourists get into cars with complete strangers- rich sheiks by the way, in order to sell sex for money. Where was their sense of self-respect then ? India is a poor country, and Indian men can’t buy you Gucci shoes and Fendi handbags- so, of course, they are savages, right ? YOU MAKE ME PUKE. I have travelled half the globe, and everywhere I’ve seen the same hypocrisy- white women taking their clothes off in a jiffy when they
visit affluent countries, and then turning into nuns when they go to third world countries. That is why I NEVER dated any white woman in my 24 years in Germany. Who likes hypocrites ? We ,the intelligent, widely travelled population of India have called your bluff long ago. SO DROP THE ACT ! If any Indian men are reading this, my advice to you is- avoid white women like the plague. No wonder thousands of Americans who want to have a decent family come to south-east Asia to find brides ! They have had enough of your double standards too.

By: Rachel Jones

Rachel Jones — Sat, 10 Nov 2018 17:33:06 +0000

In reply to Mukund. Your first thought is to assume the woman telling this story is a liar and exaggerator... interesting!