The following post is a guest post from Beth, who has been living in India for years. She’s dated Indian men and has a few tips to share for foreigner women dating Indian men here in India whether on their travels or if you are living here as an expat.
Dating in India as a Foreigner: The Do’s and Don’ts
I had only been on my first date in India for about 30 minutes, and already I was almost in tears and wanted to go home! It was a nightmare! A friend introduced to me to a nice looking Indian guy who asked me for my number. I thought, why not? I’m single and Indian guys are hot, so I gave him my number.
Several days later I accepted his offer to go out for dinner. But just as we were parking to go into the restaurant he pulled out a three pack of condoms and told me he was ready. REALLY? Ready?
Was he serious??
I struggled to maintain my composure. Frankly, I was pissed! How dare he assume he would get sex from me on the first date! I’m not saying it was completely outside the realm of possibility, but his presumption, and approach to it, shocked me!
After taking a couple of calming breaths, I asked him what gave him the idea that I was going to have sex with him on our date.
He seemed hurt, and equally shocked that I was upset. “I thought that was what you wanted,” he said, sounding genuinely confused. “I thought you would be happy that I was prepared.” I asked him how he got that idea and his response was that he thought that was what all American women wanted.
After further discussion he explained that he got that impression from watching American TV shows like Sex in the City and Desperate Housewives.
I didn’t go out with him, or any other Indian guys, for a few months after that. But when I finally did I had a much better experience. By then I had learned some basic do’s and don’ts of the Indian culture. It helped tremendously with my expectations.
I still had a few other shocking experiences though. While spending a weekend in Dubai I met a nice guy from India and spent most of the weekend with him. A few days later he left a marriage proposal on my voicemail! Yikes! Here are some helpful things to keep in mind.
Do’s for Foreigners Dating in India
- Dress modestly or at least according to the local standards. For example, Goa is much more modern than Delhi so you can get away with shorts and tank tops in Goa. However, if you wear such things in Delhi you will attract the wrong sort of attention.
- Expect bars to close around 12:30, and they really don’t start rolling until after 10:00, so you might not have a lot of time to hang out.
- Realize that our idea of friendliness might be their idea of flirtation. Not long ago I went shopping with my Indian boyfriend and was chatting with the clerk that helped me. My boyfriend said he thought I was being flirtatious while I just thought I was being nice and polite.
- Ask if they have a car. Car ownership is not as prevalent in India so you may need to take public transportation.
- Realize that they may think we are less inhibited (or easier) than Indian women. It does not take much to encourage them. Even sharing your phone number might make them think you are interested in more than just a date.
- Be safe. This applies to dating in America as well, but it is even more important in India, where a white woman is viewed as a prize. Always tell someone where you’re going and who you will be with. Go to a public place and pay attention to where you are.
Don’ts for Foreigners Dating in India
- Get upset if their mom starts calling around 9:00. Most Indian young men live with their parents until they get married. Even then, their new wife often moves in to the household rather than them getting their own place. So it is expected that his mom will worry about him and call him to make sure he is okay and behaving himself.
- Be afraid to offer to help pay the bill. We make a lot more than most of them do.
- Be surprised by chivalry. It’s alive and well in India. Guys still open doors and bring over flowers.
- Expect to be introduced to their family any time soon. I have been with my current boyfriend for eight months and still haven’t met his family. 90% of marriages in India are still arranged and I’m sure I would not be the type of traditional Indian girl they would want for their son.
- Be shocked if people stare at the two of you a lot. Interracial couple are not common in India.
Beth and her boyfriend, Kirti, living it up at the Grub Fest in Delhi
I am lucky to have beaten the odds and to have found a great boyfriend in India, but it did take some effort. We still have some major culture differences but we enjoy each other’s company and are open to the possibility of a long term future together. I hope you will step outside your comfort zone. You never know where you might find love.
Beth Bauer is an author, freelance writer and entrepreneur working as an expat in India, and is soon going rogue. Follow her adventures at www.TheJourneyofBethB.com. You can connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Google Plus.
Though i am not in India now. I think many of the points are true. Especially guys presuming foreign women would expect sex on first date. That’s how US has been portrayed most of the times, like how India is slumdog millionaire for most foreigners.
P.S: The second section is dont’s. It is written do’s for both the sections.
Thanks I’ve fixed that typo. And yes, these stereotypes do exist from both sides.
It is unfortunate you got to meet the weird variety of men from my country. The problem is, particularly in cities like Delhi, it is rare to find someone who is serious. Trust me on this, I find it hard to understand Delhi girls despite being from here (though I have lived outside of my native place most of my life).
But like everywhere, all men from Delhi aren’t that way. Too bad you had such a terrible experience.
Well written guidelines, but in India, parents irrespective of having a son or a daughter, do worry about their kids (even when adults). Big cities aren’t exactly safe as you pointed out…so yes, worrying about family and checking up on them (parents to kids or vice versa) is pretty normal.
We are culturally ingrained to stay and care for our elderly since they took care of us when we didn’t even know basic things like walk, talk, toilet train etc. Staying with parents isn’t seen as incompetency to find a new home; it is simply a matter of respect and pride.
There was some hypocrisy in the previous generations about the girl not getting to take care of her parents (in cases where the daughter was the only child of parents), many young Indian men of this generation are becoming more and more open to care for their in-laws after seeing their own parents struggle. I can’t say for all, but many are changing.
Having the presence of elders at home from either or both sides is seen as a matter of respect, especially when you have young kids at home. They often teach things to kids which help them mature and become more stable than working couples leaving their kids alone due to hectic careers, thus leaving them vulnerable to false peer pressures and wrong habits.
BTW, Loved the way you put it out without misjudging anything or anyone.
Regards,
Utkarsh
Hi Beth and Rachel,
Really cool to read about the dating scene from Beth’s perspective. I’ve heard many times – while living in India – that some Indian men do suppose American women are promiscuous, based on our TV shows. Sex in the City, and Desperate Housewives, well, yeah, some of these women are getting busy quite a bit LOL. Toss in how the Kardashians dress and some from different cultures get mixed – on in their minds, clear – signals, and just go for it. Being polite, not being offended by their misunderstanding and dissolving any confusion by stating your intentions can definitely help set things straight.
Ryan
Yeah it’s interesting here how something we might see as a friendly gesture could be taken a completely different way.
well written..
Interesting tips! I had thought about this a lot actually – my partner is Indian – but you’ve summed it up fairly well here. It’s difficult to see past the cultural differences sometimes… they can drive you nuts! But a bit of compromise is good in any relationship I guess…
Nice Post! Very funny. I agree with the stereotypes and it is super conservative in Udaipur, where I live so it is good to be cautious. I am in a relationship with a non-India. I have an Indian friend and he is one of the nicest guys on the planet. He knows he has no shot as he is also friends with my partner, but when I returned from a visit to the States, he brought me flowers. So sweet. He has also escorted another friend of ours all the way to Delhi by train with no expectations of getting lucky. I think he is a rare bird on the planet, not just in India. I agree with Beth, be safe, know some of the cultural differences and if you want to date in India, have fun!
Nice to see your take on it Betsy. The only issues I ever dealt with is when I used to do massage people would ask me on dates after? So weird. It was a thai massage (so with clothes on) I’m like no and get out now! It was just so inappropriate and happened a lot. But in terms of dating, I haven’t done that here of course since I met Ben so early on. My India guy friends are the nicest and I can’t imagine them acting in a bad way – but also Goa is very very Westernized.
I nearly died when I read the part about the marriage proposal via voicemail! Never experienced this myself although when I started dating my Malayali boyfriend I remember being a bit flabbergasted at how quickly he wanted to put a label on our relationship.
All of this is so true, from the casual friendliness being mistaken for flirting to the assumptions of white women being “easier” to the big romantic gestures.
Thanks for writing this post, I think if more white women knew what to except and understood Indian culture better they might give more of these guys a chance. Who knows? They might even find the love of their lives :)
I agree to a lot of things that you say here. Your experiences are also pretty interesting especially about the guy who assumed sex on first date seeing some sitcoms which is a very clueless 90s thing to do. I do hope you have come across some more balanced dudes as I can personally assure you that most guys won’t make such lame assumptions these days. I agree that that Indian men need a bit more maturity when it comes to dating as the concept of romance is still culturally a bit different from an Indian point of view and there are biases.
thanks for sharing your opinion of this! Comments and thoughts on it are definitely helpful for women traveling and dating in India.
It is well written and I believe the people you have met are of mentality you have described. But it is not true for general males of India. Most of us know basics of dates and do not follow the trends of TV shows like Sex in the City and Desperate Housewives you have mentioned.
Most of the foreigner in Goa, Kasol, Rishikesh meet guys who are either drivers, hotel managers, yoga teachers or agents or friends of them who are not well educated to understand feelings of a girl and basics of a relationship.
I would propose to get along with teenagers of your age like college students, corporate guy because most of these youngsters are known to the facts like Dressing modestly, pulling out a three pack of condoms on the first date.
Yes, I do agree that most of boys in India do live with their parents before marriage and usually their wife also get along in the same house. But it is because India does not have the fashion of separate house completely. But It is now changing since most of them are working in Delhi, Bangalore, Chennai and they buy their own house with the same logic.
Let me know if you need more information.
I am an Indian obviously lol
So i met this girl she was from Spain and we met at Haridwar ( i was visiting haridwar too i dont live there) she was here to learn and practice yoga , she was having a hard time finding a hotel to stay so i helped her find one then i took her to dinner in the evening and then i dropped her to her room and left to meet again in the morning and visit a temple on hills we visited the temple and then dropped her back to her hotel and left to meet at evening during arti time (arti means prayer) we went to the ganga Bank sat there for a while too talked i helped her with alot of stuff like how to pay with her bank and not cash because at that time there was alot of shortage of cash in India (de monetization) helped her with activating and accessing internet on her new number then i dropped her to her room and left, she left for rishikesh city in the morning
In all this i didn’t “expected sex ” anywhere
She wore anything she wanted tank tops or whatever it didn’t “encouraged me” i asked for her phone number after i helped he finding a room so if she needs help regarding anything she can just call me “it didn’t encourage” me or made think she wanted more than date or even a date Its sad you have a mentality like that and you are posting the on the internet making a bad image of us indians
Just because you met with shitty type of people doesn’t mean the whole india is like that people you met are were just “cheap”
This is a guest post based on the writer’s experience. But, of course this isn’t all men in India. I have so many best friends in Goa who are Indian men. But – that doesn’t mean this didn’t happen to the writer and to many other girls traveling here (who email me and tell me about it, or are friends of mine and share with me). Take a look at my post on “how to dress in India” and see comments from Indian men saying really nasty things about foreign women, or the comments trying to explain that the reason men stare in India is they’ve only seen white girls in porn, or if i had left them up, the 30+ comments I delete a week about Western women being sluts which are from Indian men… I have 400+ posts about India (PROMOTING India) on my blog but it would be deceiving to not mention this side of things to. There is a reputation of western women in India and that cannot be ignored + foreign women coming here should know some men think like this. I write mostly about India, but that isn’t to say it doesn’t happen elsewhere in the world, but my posts are about what happens in India specifically. As someoone who has a career PROMOTING India to the world, it’s not cool to be lectured for also sharing the negative sides of India. It would be false to hide the other side of what happens here. There is so much in India which is fair toward not just women but muslims (i mean what’s going on now with the beef ban etc) and you can look only to politicians who say women deserve to be raped to know that this is a problem that should not be ignored and it only makes India better to deal with these issues rather than sweep them under the rug. Instead of being annoyed that other Indian men do this and worrying it makes you look bad, realize that this IS happening, and people are traveling India dealing with this and try to do positive things to balance this out or help stop these things when you see them happening.
I’m Indian, and I completely agree with you Rachel. It makes me feel ashamed, but this is really a problem. Indian men to then to think that foreign caucasian girls are easy (of course not everyone is like that). There are a lot of factors to that. Cultural difference, media, porn, etc. Girls need to maintain a level of caution when dating Indian men, but also don’t shun them as Indian guys can be the nicest persons you would ever meet.
There would be many cultural differences that both the parties will need to get used to and understand. Not many Indian guys will date any girl for like 2-3 years before getting married. The concept of dating is not that prevalent over here. So expect a marriage proposal sometime within 6 months to a year, if the guy is serious about you and sees a future together with you. This is mainly because there’s a constant pressure from the guys family to get married if he’s not by the age of 30. If you are not comfortable with that, you should clearly mention that you don’t want to get married anytime soon before you start dating him.
I just cant believe miss jones, to be in goa you left your nursing career? I mean i love goa too and i live in maharashtra butits really so hard to live at a new state and place, where one isn’t used to live.
No offence but the way the things r represented through US soaps and movies, I guess it’s one of the reasons why some Indian guys r having a surge of testosterone when a foreigner of the opposite sex calls for a dinner…..I Feel really ashamed as an Indian to read such a shameless act committed by my own countryman. Anyway, hope that no one else encounter such incidents in the future….good luck!
* u may lodge a complaint with the police.
You talk like a saint. I know lots of things about USA and how they treat girls. Can I show you?? western countries like to mocking one country while they forget how they treat women in there own country. Hypocrite??
I don’t understand why we don’t to date an foreign girls at first place while we have better girls here.
I find it deeply insulting when Indian men continue to go crazy over women of other races/cultures. Indian men and women are attractive enough and we should be that to each other. As a nation that is continuously insulted by western countries and similar states as a nation of poverty-stricken savages or an ugly group of people who want their white women, the least we can do is grow some self-respect, marry our own kind and work towards developing our own state with heads held high.
… marry your own kind … You sound like someone from the American Deep South. (That’s not a compliment.)
you whites are dirty people did you know that sanitation ancient hydraulic engineering drainage plumbing and toilets were invented by Indians and not whites well now you do! and shampoo was invented by Indians (indian Vedic champoo) you whites are full of inferior genes and shouldstick to your own race you are a dying race and are recessive genetics . your people have the highest divorce rates and lackculture stay out of our country whites have MCR-1 genes and varicella zoster virus which mutates into shingles you are discusting parasites. keep your epidermodysplasia verricoformis ,xeroderma pigmentosum and HPV human papilloma virus to yourself. whites have a bad history with all races and us south Asians don’t like whiteskinned barbaric cave savages. you scourge lie about achievements and inventions your race never made you envy Indians you are jealous scum on our non white planet get out of our non white planet.quit using surgery medicine language grammar literature university numbers number zero fiber optics wireless communications binary code and I can go on . we don’t believe in miscegenation we have arranged marriages and whites and jews don’t belong on our earth you people are inferior leeches who use our ideals of religion which comes from our yajur ved you use music and dance which both come from our sam ved we don’t like whiteskinned trash get out of America that’s not a whiteland.white women are dirty and suffer from melanoma epidermlysis bulosa. white women get constant mammogram testing and need a double mastectomy treatment whites are so unhealthy and gross.whites robbed our country and we going to kill you in ww3.
Well,first of all,so sorry to read about Beth and I’m a bit shocked here,especially about “Sex and the city” thing.Yes,I agree with you and I don’t know why most of the Indians(mostly guys) prefers Western people to be their hookup partner.It is like getting a PRIZE to have a Western(white) women.
I can relate…I have some friends who are crazy about these stuffs so they just ignores Black or Brown girls over Whites,which I presume is Racism.
I have some Foreign friends so I know how much is it to live in India as a Foreigner…there are some morons with their annoying behaviour and you may have already seen this across Social medias,how they are crazy about getting them but there are also nice people.
Sometimes I feel ashamed to even say that I’m an Indian and because of these Desperate jerks,people see us this way.
I never asked my white friends what is she wearing to sleep or Getting laid,just because they are open minded and Frank you can’t
think she’s probably up for an “One night Stand”.
Found this article because my boyfriend (lives in the US) is Indian, and his family is all still in India. He is preparing to let them know I (American) exist, and I was just looking into what to expect.
The ‘link from 90% of marriages in India are still arranged’ is dead, by the way, and goes to a 404/page not found.
The story that a man took out 3 condoms in parking lot appears fake and over exaggerated for the following reasons. Of course it appears funny and is useful in forcing people to read further.
1. He parked the car at a restaurant and not outside a hotel so why would he show condoms suddenly.
2. It is almost impossible to have sex in parking lot of any Indian restaurant. This idea has been picked directly from Hollywood movies
3. As an Indian man binge watching American shows and even my friends have been watching American shows from a long time but desperate housewives or Sex in the city are not quite popular among Indian men. So that mention also points out to the some fakeness.
Before starting the story it is good to sort out the facts right. Foreign readers who are the intended audience might believe coz they are not aware.
Your first thought is to assume the woman telling this story is a liar and exaggerator… interesting!
you white AlieN martiaNs are fkg ugly our indian women are the most beautiful women stay out of our countrys business we don’t like white skinned savages.whites don’t belong on our planet quit using our ideals of religion and invention of language that’s not for white extraterrestrials go back to your planet and get out of ours Europe is a fake name for a continent which isn’t separated by waters .we get technical your white race was never here and indus meaning indian indus valley civilization is the first civilization on the planet get out of our planet. GET OUT OF OUR NON WHITE CONTINENT! one british murdered in Goa IndiA one german murdered in ultar pradesh that means whites are not welcome! stay in your ShitholE’ we are ANTI WHITE we want you deaD’
Wow, some very interesting anti – India propaganda there, as usual ! I am Indian , live now in Kolkata , but was born and brought up in Berlin, Germany. I have seen it all – so don’t any white woman tell me fairytales about your virtuousness and morality. For you, not losing your virginity before you’re 18 is oh so not cool – and having at least 10 ex-boyfriends is a sign you are “growing” as a woman. Ha! Berlin is an international city, and I have seen German , British , American women all do their thing, living it up. I am also aware of how often white women become victims of date-rape and gang-rape , courtesy their oh-so-civilised white boyfriends. And then ,suddenly , when you all come to India, you all become virtuous, decent , self-respecting ladies ! Who do you think you are fooling ? NO ONE. And I have also been to the United Arab Emirates, where I have seen white women tourists get into cars with complete strangers- rich sheiks by the way, in order to sell sex for money. Where was their sense of self-respect then ? India is a poor country, and Indian men can’t buy you Gucci shoes and Fendi handbags- so, of course, they are savages, right ? YOU MAKE ME PUKE. I have travelled half the globe, and everywhere I’ve seen the same hypocrisy- white women taking their clothes off in a jiffy when they
visit affluent countries, and then turning into nuns when they go to third world countries. That is why I NEVER dated any white woman in my 24 years in Germany. Who likes hypocrites ? We ,the intelligent, widely travelled population of India have called your bluff long ago. SO DROP THE ACT ! If any Indian men are reading this, my advice to you is- avoid white women like the plague. No wonder thousands of Americans who want to have a decent family come to south-east Asia to find brides ! They have had enough of your double standards too.
Hello ! A tbousand apoplogies for the vile garbage in the above comment that was made in my name by an arsehole who was using my computer ! Delete this piece of trash immediately-you are so right about Indians . I usually don’t comment on these blogs, but what I commented below is the actual me commenting. I am very sorry for the hurt caused by this extreme racist bullshit this motherfucker spewed out from MY computer.Delete it immediately! Once again, extremely sorry for the hurt this caused. My comment below will tell you how I really feel about your topic.
Hi !
I’m live now in Kolkata , India but grew up in Berlin. I was shocked when I came back to India to see how western women are treated. And anyway , Indian women aren’t doing any better- after all, eight-year old girls are getting sexually abused here ! I have many white friends whom I ‘ve met in my many travels , and I’d like to share a few tips I give white girls on interacting with my countrymen. Maybe you’ll find them useful:
1) ask about their parents,their siblings, their hobbies etc. Never about girlfriends or whether they are married or not. This immediately signals disinterest in matters of romance or sex.
2) Talk about your boyfriend ; if you don’t have one-make him up. See the reaction. If he becomes uncomfortable, you know what he really wants.
3) If he wants to go out, ask if you can bring your friends along ( both male and female) . If he doesn’t like the idea- well, I needn’t say more.
These three initial tests usually give a good idea of who you are dealing with .
Guys who react very positively to this approach make for good friends you can really hang out with and count on.
Of course, there’s always the possibility of meeting a great guy. In that case, good luck. But, sad to say , so many of the white women I have met have had horrible tales to tell. Anyway, great post !
I don’t think it was because of your race that Indian guys seemed interested in having sex. It happens with Indian girls too most of the times. It just in White people and specially White women’s head that men in India think White men or women as prize or anything because of their race!!! At first it may seem like that because white people are portrayed as rich and fashionable in movies and India is very diverse in culture but not in terms of race but believe me you’ll get what I am saying if you have stayed a little longer and interacted with the same people a couple of more times! I blame Western Media for portraying White Women as easy!
Also I know White women tend to racially profile Indian men or any non white men! They just want to date an Indian guy (if they ever want to date one) to experience culture! From the beginning they have made their mind to not go into serious relationship with the Indian Guy and use the companionship as just sort of exploring culture and not the person! From so many experiences I have heard they say “oh I dated an Indian guy once! At least I got to try different Indian food places” and never a comment about how the person was!
Also your statement about 90% marriages being arranged marriages in India is not true specially among the young generation! Also the way “arranged” marriages are done has changed drastically in India! The girl and the guy date or get to know each other for the first few months before committing to each others lives and families and getting married.
Agree that things are changing in India, but actually, the arranged marriage is one thing that hasn’t changed. Recent surveys show that 84% of people 13-35 who are married in India, it was arranged. So, not 90% anymore, but not far off. Source: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/05/02/india-has-changed-a-lot-in-70-years-but-arranged-marriage-remains-the-norm/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.e7a4c08c11c7
who Indians get married to is none of your business you jealous white piece of fkg $%#! stick with your inferior race and stay out of our races business we don’t like white uglys like you you are filthy people and a burden to healthcare you stage 4 cancerrat.whites will be genocideD in ww3. we cant wait.don’t come to our country you wont come back alive.us ultraconservative rightwing hindus will kill you . your self entitlement bs doesn’t work around here!.we also noticed you have allot of fake comments on this forum endorsing race mixing us indians hate white trash we see with our own eyes how backwards and filthy your people are you also have a terrible history keep your drama out of our country,. our future will be to nuke you and all whites on the planet..
Beth looks twice the age of her boyfriend. Gross.
The entitlement some women display. If you’re “shocked” by a guy wanting to have sex with you, pray to Shiva that you have it so good.
I am agreed with the writer…not all but most of Indian men are still have this primitive instinct of taking women for granted be it a Indian girl or any foreigner..huge ego problem with Indian men..
is that why whites have the highest divorce rates infidellity non monogamy and white men beat their women. Indians have successful marriages and low divorce rates.whites have the biggest ego and get caught for numerous lies whites need to stay out of our country we don’t want you here and we will stab you. no races like whites.whites are pedophiles and get caught for voyeurism and sexual exploitation towards under age minors.whites decriminalize prostitution because white women lack brains they spread their legs to make rent money.
Dude this happens in India as well. It is just that people dont speak up.
Fair article. Even me being an Indian male and dating western women here in Bangkok, I have heard similar stories from them. I think a major problem is, Indians in India are not used to Non Indians(be it western,middle eastern or African) and a huge assumption is anyone out of India would be open minded (as Indians are terribly conservative). Now with the above situations in place it is expected people to just freak out as they are not aware of the expectations(so sometimes they over do it). For ex, my first date with a white person in Bangkok..it took us 6 dates to even kiss each other..the reason being, I was under the assumption that the world thinks “All Indians are rapists”, so it was just a self respect thing for me, where as she had already started freaking out and was assuming that I am gay(considering Bangkok has a huge population of LGBTQ population). We broke the ice eventually and we stayed together for a couple of years.
I would suggest to write a blog post about “What non Indian women expect out of Indian men” or something :D
It is sad that you went throught this experience. It is hard for foreigners to differentiate between a well informed person and someone who would not even know the basics of dating. The open minded Indians stay in circle with the other open minded Indians. Once a traveller finds that circle, the traveller can let her guard down.
It is sad that that those who visit India need to put this initial filter, but that is the truth. Indians are good with recognising this ‘circle’ as it is related to city, education and other personal factors relating to that person.
I think this article is going to be helpful not only to foreigners but also to indian men like me who stumbled upon it because it helped clear some misunderstandings, like there were moments when I really couldn’t figure out if a girl was flirting or was trying to be friendly but now i know to assume the latter after reading this. Thanks!
I think beth has made her point quite diligently and it’s imperative upon us to know both positives and negatives. Dating is not as prevalent in India as it is in west so many men (I m not talking about boys) have not had the privilege to gain dating experience as much as western men do. I mean we do not heir dating coaches like people do in west as ultimately there is an option of arrange marriages. Family system is still quite functional compared to west so parents take care of many of such stuff.
Also foreign women usually encounter uneducated men(drivers, small shop owners etc) more at these places like rishikesh and haridwar who possess limited social skills.
Finding some educated fellow is difficult as they are busy in regular life struggles as life in India is tough comparatively if you wish to earn good life. Also Indian men are usually interested in marrying an Indian girl as most are aware of the western hookup dating culture and people changing partners like clothes. I m not saying that everyone from west is like that but I think you can understand what I mean. Indian men in general are one woman man committed kind of people. To give you guys an idea America has 45 % divorce rate whereas India has 1% divorce rate.
So if you are looking for a serious long term relationship Indian men are the most intelligent, smart and committed partners you can ever find but if you are looking for hook up and stuff why look for it in India? and how does it matter if the guy has social skills or not afterall it’s just hook up.
These are my two cents.
It takes more than a luck to get into a relationship with someone who is not from your religion or country. By looks of the article one can say that it is not easy to summize it with words like good or bad experience. Yes stereotypes exists everywhere and because of it you can either have a bad or worst experience of your lifetime. People tend to react on someone else’s experience without knowing all the facts or scenario which in turn creates more rumors. I believe everybody knows what happens when you start believing rumors. I am not saying that what you mentioned are all rumors but it is harsh to categories everyone. I hope the readers will understand that one has to come out from their comfort zone or beat all the odds to get someone which is worthy of your “unconditional” love. I read somewhere “it’s easy to find a girlfriend or boyfriend but so hard to find the love of your life”. I like the simplicity your article and the message is clear cut with touch of reality. I hope more and more people come out for a healthy conversation rather than being always judgmental.
India has its unique set of problems that are difficult to comprehend. I truly love India and honestly hate the way Indian men are perceived globally by all nationalities. I don’t think we deserve this label. Maybe you can write a blog post on the positives of dating Indian men and their drawbacks as a global citizen. maybe give a few suggestions on how Indian men can be globally competitive.
Well this article is not bad. It doesn’t spread lies about Indian men unlike other western articles and even some articles written by Indian women. Many Indian women also spread lies about Indian men in the west so that they won’t get western women. Therefore they can get back to these Indian men (since they would single because of that stereotyping) when they think about marriage and settling down after playing around.