Six Years Later, We’re Engaged!

Six years ago, near the end of my huge first trip to India, I met Ben in a bar in Calangute, Goa and moved to India. Six months ago we took our dogs and cat from India and moved to Mexico… a big adventure! One month ago, Ben proposed to me in the Yucatan. Soooo I guess that means we are getting married!

I think you guys know by now I’m not really the mushy gushy type. Ben and I have approximately 20 photos together, 10 of which we are drunk and 10 we have helmets on for go-karting. We just aren’t that type of couple that takes a lot of photos together (hence why he’s never on my Instagram) or make a big deal out of things like anniversaries (something we never celebrate). I’ve only written one post about Ben and it was about how we met which you can read here.

So I’m getting out of my comfort zone a little bit here to share this news with you! It’s obviously going to be a big part of my life, so I definitely wanted to share about it with you.

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Ben and I 5.5 years ago in England at a wedding, one of the probably 5 times we’ve ever got this dressed up together, all of which were friends’ weddings

Ben’s sister’s wedding in London last year

I’ll start at the beginning, the proposal

I’m trying to think which day it happened but just can’t think of the date. It was a weekend about a month or so ago! Ben and I went to the beach like usual and took the dogs with us. We drove an hour out to our favorite beach, San Crisanto.

We packed up the beach chairs and umbrella and made lunch to take. Doritos and PB&J. Classy.

We chilled with the dogs for a while and I read most of the afternoon and then we went on a walk, yada yada, Ben proposed! Haha! Is that good enough? No? ;) I’ll share a little more.

Okay, so basically he had the ring on Shanti’s collar. In typical Ben fashion, he stepped on a huge amount of burrs right before he was going to propose so he had to sit down to take them out. I was laughing at him because he literally does this all the time – and in India recently on a beach walk stepped on a nail.

We walked a bit further and he stopped and got the ring from Shanti’s collar but I just thought he had a burr in his foot still so I was like “hurry up” haha! And then he asked me and I was like wait what is happening… because I did not see that coming, but obviously said yes.

It was perfect on the beach with my dogs there, too! I always told Ben I wanted a simple proposal, not big grand thing, and with no one around. Couldn’t have been better.

Now for the funny part which ruins the romance but it’s just so funny. So he had obviously been down on the sand to propose and we were over there for a little while, so when we went back to our little seating area this guy and his son came up to us and were like “we had a little figurine we are missing it… it was over there.” They pointed to where he proposed. We are like “umm, okay, we didn’t see anything”. They were like “Are you sure?” We told him yes. He then proceeded to scope out our stuff like he thought we stole some figurine!? We were like this is so bizarre but it was pretty funny. The guy and his son left, definitely thinking we were over there digging around taking their supposedly hidden and now lost “figurine”, because why else were we over there for so long with Ben down in the sand!? What are the chances?

The ring (that’s what everyone wants to really know!)

Ben proposed with a simple band that he got this summer when he asked my parents if he could marry me, like the gentlemen he is (shocker, I know). He did that so that I could pick out my own ring. We had always talked about getting one online at Blue Nile whenever we did get married. Living in India and seeing the wholesale prices compared to the prices of rings in stores big jewelry stores is literally crazy, like double. Blue Nile is an online site that has GIA official rings and you can select the cut, color, quality, carat, etc and pick out the perfect ring for your budget. We had looked in London a year ago just peeking because he had asked what kind of ring I wanted and similar rings there compared to online were about double so I told him if he ever proposes with an overpriced ring, I would hate that haha!

I also wanted a compass ring with a “NSEW” setting which is a little more rare to find, and I wanted 14K gold (because any higher is really yellow and I didn’t want it to be a bright gold). I found that setting on Blue Nile and told Ben it was what setting I wanted after he had proposed. He then picked out the stone so I’d be surprised and sent it to my parent’s house in Ohio so that when I got home for Thanksgiving it was there. Best present ever!

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It was too big, though, so I sent it back for resizing which is free and now it fits perfect (if not a little too small but that’s just because I have giant knuckles) and I’m so obsessed with it! I always wanted a simple band and just one diamond on there and its perfect. I suppose it’s a little unconventional to order a ring online but was actually Ben’s brother’s idea to propose with a pretend ring and then let me pick out a ring later which Ben thought was a good idea and I agree. Ben wanted to give me a wooden ring and once asked me if I’d like tigers eye or “amber with a bug in it” as the stone – so I think it’s only fair that I told him I’d like to pick the ring out myself ;)

I got it insured online and have to triple check they’d cover me living in Mexico and traveling all the time! When I insured it, it made me realize how much money you actually save buying a ring wholesale – because you insure the “retail” value which is what it would cost in a store, and that number is on a document from Blue Nile and is nearly double what we actually paid. No Tiffany’s for me, lol.

The wedding

We are getting married in August next summer. I’m 30 in June so feel like this summer is a good time to get married and honestly just don’t think anything will change so it doesn’t really feel like that big of a deal – we’ve been living together for six years. We’ve lived abroad in India which has its challenges, had pets we love pass away, adopted more pets, and moved across the world to Mexico and started over again. I feel like we will be just fine getting married!

I think I’ll just keep my name because I honestly can’t imagine changing my passport, India and Mexico visas, USA and Mexico driver’s licenses, etc. It would be such a pain!

I’m getting married in a barn just 10 minutes from my house. It’s going to be a fairly simple wedding but just what I pictured with all the people that I love there! I think that most of Ben’s family and friends will be coming over from England, and his bestie, Mitch will be officiating the wedding. We are having a cool band play, and my friend Colleen is singing at the ceremony.

Don’t worry, I won’t spam you out with boring wedding details all year. I’m going to share about it though – but over on my lifestyle blog Omni Curated. If you want to follow along, then make sure you sign up to my email subscription over there or follow my Omni Curated Facebook page.

Ben has been the best part of my life for so many years now and I couldn’t be happier to get married to him! The next thing to consider is: where will the honeymoon be!? Let me know where you think Ben and I should go! Somewhere epic and adventurous!

Tanzania? Zanzibar? Madagascar? All three!?

Thailand

Singapore

India

Malaysia

Goa

Sri Lanka

 

 

This post is sponsored by Blue Nile. Ben had already purchased the ring before I was ever in contact with Blue Nile. This is a ring I will be wearing for the rest of my life and wouldn’t take a sponsored post for something like this if I wasn’t already going to be loving it, and I do love it so much!

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About the Author:

Rachel Jones left a career in nursing and lived on the beaches of Goa, India for the five years. Now she lives in Mexico where she gives advice on the 40+ countries she’s visited in the last 10 years. She’s the author of two India travel e-books: Guide to India and Insider’s Guide to Goa. Her blog, Hippie in Heels, like its name, is a contradiction combining off-beat adventurous places with glamorous and bespoke travel. Hippie in Heels has been featured in ELLE, Marie Claire, Grazia, and Cosmopolitan magazines. She’s a writer for Bravo TV.

14 Comments

  1. Anna December 10, 2018 at 9:58 pm - Reply

    Congrats! Love your down to earth thoughts on overpriced rings ☺️

    I know something about changing your name and gosh, yeah – don’t do it haha!

  2. sailaja December 11, 2018 at 1:24 am - Reply

    Congrats Rachel :) It’s amazing to see you guys engaged. It always felt like i knew you at a personal level and thanks for sharing this good news with us.

  3. Rachel en Route December 11, 2018 at 5:54 am - Reply

    Congrats Rachel! Enjoy the celebrations x

  4. Ruchika December 11, 2018 at 6:45 am - Reply

    CONGRATULATIONS!! I am so happy for you both :)

  5. Katy December 11, 2018 at 6:46 am - Reply

    Congratulations! What an adventure you have had and will continue to enjoy…. Loved the photos, we never see Ben.

  6. Anna-Katri / Adalmina's Adventures December 11, 2018 at 11:46 am - Reply

    Congratulations you two! <3 I would definitely recommend all those three destinations for honeymoon: Tanzania is the best place to spot African wild life and have an once in a lifetime experience and after that Sanzibar is a place to relax and pamper yourselves. But Madagascar offers an unique adventure, landscape and wildlife, it is a place you cannot see anywhere else. Whe I was there I was only exploring the west side of Madagascar where is Unesco Heritage site Baobab avenue and Tsingy national park. In the east side of Madagascar are all of those unbelievable rainforest areas (Ranomafara national park is said to be the best) and the north part of the country is all about beach life, turquoise water and diving/snorkeling spots. There is also many resorts etc, which are probably perfect for unique honeymoon. :)

    If you want to check some pics from Madagascar, here is the link to my blog posts – sorry, they are in Finnish, but at least pictures are there. :) And if you have any questions, I'm happy to help!

    http://adalminasadventures.com/category/afrikka/madagaskar/

  7. Christine December 11, 2018 at 11:03 pm - Reply

    Wonderful news, Rachel, congratulations to you both!

  8. AboutCreativity December 11, 2018 at 11:08 pm - Reply

    Enjoy!

  9. Whitney December 16, 2018 at 12:12 pm - Reply

    Congrats! Keep your name (I did), that’s a phenomenal way to propose, and Blue Nile is where the blueprint for my ring was created!

  10. Thursa December 17, 2018 at 8:35 pm - Reply

    Congratulations! Really happy for you and looking forward to hearing about the wedding :-)

  11. Soniya December 20, 2018 at 9:44 am - Reply

    Congratulations :))

  12. marion January 4, 2019 at 3:29 pm - Reply

    Congratulations !!! I have been following your blog for awhile and i am very happy for you!

  13. thebritishberliner January 15, 2019 at 10:43 am - Reply

    OMG! Coooooongratulations Rachel. And what a very lovely ring. Wow!

    This is so cool, but I knew you guys would get married. You’re just meant to be together and judging by the bits and bobs that you’ve shared, Ben is perfect for you, and you’re perfect for him! :D

    I’ve been married for 18 years and kept my name too. And why not – modern times n’ all that. I might change to my husbands’ one day – but I think it’s a bit late now lol!

    I love the fact that you’re getting married in a barn nearby.

    I wanted to get married in a castle, and castles are one and penny in Germany so that wasn’t difficult! My castle was originally the summer palace of a Prussian king and was surrounded by a private lake, a private farm complete with animals, and we were serenaded by our friends and family who are mostly musicians and artists.

    I wanted a mixture of tradition and realistic charm, so everyone was in top hat, morning suits, cocktail dresses and bare feet, so that we could all jump and scream in the field.

    So we did!

    I can’t wait to hear all about your wedding plans so I’ll subscribe to your other blog too!
    p.s. Do you still have your Facebook travel page as I can’t seem to find it anymore! :(

    • Rachel Jones January 16, 2019 at 1:40 am - Reply

      Wow your wedding sounds like so much fun and actually I know TWO other people who got married in Germany and they also talked about the castles being so easy and affordable to get there – how awesome! Thank you for the congrats, we are excited!

      I do still have my FB page! it’s facebook.com/hippieinheelsblog – weird you can’t see it!?

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